Thomas Dekker Comes Out as Gay After Being Outed at Awards Show

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Thomas Dekker — you may not know him by name, but you certainly should know him by face and, more importantly, his work. He portrayed leading man Adam Conant on cult favorite The Secret Circle, opposite Britt Robertson, Phoebe Tonkin and Shelley Hennig. Prior to that, he appeared opposite Hayden Panettiere on the first season of Heroes. Outside of his time on screen, though, the 29-year-old actor’s lived a rather private life… ’til now.

Apparently, the star’s been happily married to a man since April, but the public was unaware. Unfortunately, he was forced out of the closet after screenwriter/television producer Bryan Fuller outed him at a recent awards ceremony.

Here’s his full statement (via Twitter): My sexual orientation once again came into question this week when a prominent gay man used an awards acceptance speech to “out” me. While he did not mention me by name, the explicit details of his reference made it easy for the public and media to connect the dots.

While it is an odd situation, I thank him because it presents a prime opportunity for me to publicly say that I am indeed a man who proudly loves other men. In fact, this April, I married my husband and I could not be happier.

I have never lied to the press about the fluidity of my sexuality but this man claiming that I came out is not true. Because I have not “officially” until this moment. I simply refuse to be robbed of the glorious joy that belongs to me. To say the words myself. “I’m gay”. Those words are a badge of honor that no one can steal.

Sexuality and who you love is a deeply personal and complicated thing. For some of us, it takes time to cultivate, discover and conclude. It is not something anyone should ever be ashamed of and certainly not something anyone should be rushed into.

I agree with many who believe it is an important responsibility for LGBTQ persons with a platform to come out. It has the power to change minds, challenge beliefs and make others feel understood and supported. It can strengthen the progression of our community and help disarm those who discriminate against us. It is a brave, powerful and important thing to do but it is also a deeply personal decision. One that should only be made when you are ready.

If we are to stand strong in the gay community, our mission should be support, not exclusion; love, not shame. I choose not to look back on the past with a regretful heart but rather focus on the future with a hopeful one. A future where myself and all others can feel free to express their true selves with honor and dignity.

I embrace you, any of you, with open arms, kindness, faith and patience.
For all of you who have supported me, before and now, I thank you from the bottom of my fledgling heart.

Be proud of who you are. No matter how long it takes.

It didn’t take much for the public to figure out that Thomas was referring to Bryan Fuller, who was a four-time writer for Heroes. During his acceptance speech for Outfest Achievement Award, he said, “I had a brief stint on Heroes where the gay character was ‘hetwashed‘ [changed from homo- to heterosexual] after the actor’s management threatened to pull him from the show if he — the character, not the actor — were gay. The character became straight and the actor came out as gay.”

It seems as if Bryan thought the actor’s sexuality was out in the open, which was a mistake on his part. Nevertheless, the information is out there, and Thomas’ TSC co-stars are proud of how Thomas handled the situation: