The 9 Stages of Being the Last to Join a Group of Friends
Do you know the one thing that is more complicated than making a new friend? Making a group of friends, that’s what. Especially when the group is already established and you’re the new kid on the block. ’cause, before you have a brand new group of best friends to call your own, you’re definitely going to go through these nine very specific stages:
1. Introduction. When you learn everyone’s names and promptly forget them until you can sneak-ask later on.
2. Impression. It’s a bit harder to get an entire group of friends to like you than it is to get just one person to.
3. Confusion. You won’t get why the inside jokes are funny, but you’ll probably laugh anyway.
4. Invitation. The golden ticket to BFF-ship is being invited to hang out with the group.
5. Mental note-taking. Otherwise, you’ll lose track of why Amber’s hated Jen since last summer, even though they used to be, like, total BFFs.
6. Casual comfort. You’ll stop panicking about not having anything to say when left alone in the room with any one member of the friend group.
7. Constant hangouts. That one invitation quickly grows into repeated invitations.
8. Bonafide membership. Now, when outside people refer to the friend group, your name is among the names listed.
9. Full-blown best friendship. And the rest is history.