Love, Simon Actor Joey Pollari Comes Out as Gay Right Before Film Release

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It looks like Nick Robinson‘s brother isn’t the only one who decided to come out as gay in the wake of Love, Simon filming. Joey Pollari, the actor who plays Lyle, one of the people Simon thinks might be Blue, in the just-released movie, has just revealed his sexuality to the public.

The 23-year-old actor came out as gay to his friends and family when he was 18, but hasn’t spoken about it since his rise in Hollywood. The American Crime alum tells The Advocate that his first coming-out experience was “positive” because “all [his] friends and family knew on some level.” His mom was even “waiting for a very, very long time” for him to finally tell her he is gay.

He recalls, “My mom knew. She laid hints for me everywhere.”

“The only part that was difficult was me coming out to myself,” he continues. “And I think that is the most difficult coming-out.A lot of the trouble was self-shame. I do believe a system of power, of patriarchy, of masculinity did impact me. The greatest difficulty I found was that it didn’t match my idea of myself. It seemed incongruent with the future I imagined for myself, the identity I had struck up with others. The interplay between me and women, me and men, now suddenly seemed entirely different. That just didn’t seem fair or right.”


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Joey used to have “nightmares” about what he believed life as an openly gay man would be like, but has been pleasantly surprised by what really ended up happening after he came out.

“On the other side, it’s a lot plainer than I thought,” he says. “The real scary stuff and the real exciting stuff is falling in love with someone.”

The actor decided to come out publicly because having he knows the impact of having someone look up to as a queer kid in the closet.

He explains, “It meant a lot to me when I was younger, to see people who are out, to see people who are all kinds of things — people who are so clear in their anger, people who are clear about their arrogance, their pettiness, their desperation. I mean, that’s why I go to the movies… I go to learn something about someone else. In a byproduct, I learn about myself. That’s the power of representation.”

Love, Simon is such an important film that’s truly going to change lives.