The Hardest Part About Bea Miller’s Very Public Breakup

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Bea Miller and Jacob Whitesides were one of young Hollywood’s cutest couples until they unexpectedly called it quits last May. Despite their best efforts to make things work while both were on the road, the duo split while the 17-year-old was touring with Selena Gomez on the Revival Tour. As if breaking up isn’t hard enough, the need had to deal with the emotional experience while having to perform every night for thousands of people AND do meet & greets with adoring (but sometimes nosy) fans.

pre jon bellion concert aka the best shit my ears have ever been blessed with

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“I think the hardest part about [going through a public breakup] was that sometimes when I was doing meet & greets directly after that happened, [and] you know, people didn’t know or they weren’t that affected by it. A lot of my fans were really supportive about it and they were there for me,” she told us during a recent chat. “But, sometimes it was just really hard to put on that face every day and walk out there. If you’re not super, super nice to people even when you’re having your own really bad day then they get offended by it. So I think that was the hardest part for me… trying to spread positive energy when I was feeling a lot of negative energy. A lot of people understood, but people who didn’t understand at the time made my life a little difficult.”

Fortunately, the former couple is now back to being friends because their platonic relationship happened “for a long time before [they] dated” and it wasn’t something the X-Factor contestant “wanted to lose.”

Bea’s love for spreading positivity is one of the reasons why she decided to partner up with 3 Musketeers to be a part of their #ThrowShine campaign.

“#ThrowShine is essentially just the opposite of throwing shade, which is a very prevalent problem right now, especially on the Internet. You know a lot of young people turn against each other at a time when they really should boost each other up…It’s really good to partner with people who have the same intentions as you do and who are trying to spread a positive message and get people to band together rather than tear each other down. I went through a really rough time a few years ago where I was really sad and I couldn’t get out of bed and I really needed someone in my life who was going to be positive and help me get through it. I try to be that person for other people.”

As for whether her hard time was actually something even more difficult — like an underlying struggle with anxiety or depression, she says she truly doesn’t know.

“I really was just going through a hard time and had a lot of family problems that were going on. I spent a lot of time alone in my bed and not really going anywhere. So, I would just say I was really sad. I don’t know if it was something more serious than that but it was just a really hard time for me that lasted a really long time.”

Bea def has some great advice for anyone who is experiencing such personal hardships as well, saying, “You have to really find happiness within yourself. You can look to other people but you can’t necessarily rely on them for your own self-worth and self-confidence. It can be really hard sometimes to even just go downstairs to brush your teeth and I get it, but at the end of the day you can create happiness for yourself. It’s something you can make for yourself when it’s not something you can find.”

Along with her work with 3 Musketeers, Bea will also be releasing new music in 2017. While she’s opted out of putting out an album the ‘traditional’ way, she says we’ll get the same amount of tunes we normally would in a more ~unique~ manner (deets TBA). SO EXCITED!!

Bea and Jacob met during The X-Factor audition process, like these other celebrity couples: